Today we continue sharing about sexual intimacy in marriage. And let’s start with a question; is sex in marriage like a thermostat or a thermometer?
Well, we find thermostats in almost every cooling system – like car engines, aircons, fridges. The purpose is to regulate temperature and keep the system from over heating or cooling. So if sex in our marriage regulates our relationship – we are in deep trouble. Just think about it, sex good – marriage great, sex bad – marriage down the drain. Ok that can’t be it!
A thermometer on the other hand, as we have learnt during Covid, indicates that something could be wrong!
Likewise, in a healthy marriage, sex reinforces the relational bond. It is the most intimate and private act that couples share, a celebration of their unity and oneness. In this regard our sex life can be an indication of the well-being and health of our relationship.
Sex involves the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual and therefore reflects our well-being in these areas. Therefore, a lack of interest or rejection or withdrawal, may be because of something physical like fatigue, a pregnancy, a diet or the children. Mentally it could be due to stress. Or emotionally as result of guilt, conflict, anger or abuse.
So be mindful of these things and communicate it with one another.
But remember the bottom line – relax and take pleasure in the absolute uniqueness of your sexual intimacy as a married couple – it is, after all, a gift from God for you to enjoy!