Today we start by sharing about communication in marriage and specifically about sexual intimacy.
So, let’s kick off with a question; “Whose idea is sex anyway?” Well, that may be a difficult one – we live in times where the media is saturated with promoting certain ideas about sex. Sex is just a Google search away. We see it in movies and TV shows. Pornographic websites are rampant, and thousands of articles and video clips suggest the 3 secrets or the 10 things that will change sexual fantasy into reality. Finding the truth is very confusing!
Dennis Rainey1 says that sex has become a cultural obsession; society paints sexual intimacy as a cheap counterfeit and a perversion of its original design! It is like a surgeon’s knife – designed for good but in the wrong hands it can do
The Bible tells us that God created man and women2, and God said that a man will leave his parents and unite with his wife and they will become one3. So, in short – sex is God’s divine idea. As Rainey says – God created a process of intimate communication, of which sex is a significant part.
It is a powerful, emotional, bonding experience designed to strengthen a marriage – much as metal rods reinforce concrete. God designed sex as part of communication in a marriage and as a way to really ‘know’ each other.
The bottom line – sex is not an end, it is a means to an end! And we will talk more about this next time.