5 Threats to Oneness – The World’s Plan for Marriage

Session 2 | Episode 2 & 3

5 Threats to oneness

Acceptance of one another is based upon performance

When we enter marriage with the idea – you give 50% and I will give 50% our oneness will be threatened. This plan is how the world operates, and the following will happen:

Acceptance of one another is based upon performance – you do your part and I’ll do mine.

We will only give Affection and love when we feel our partner deserves it.

The world’s plan is destined to lead to conflict and dissatisfaction because we have unreal expectations of one another.

The world’s plan is destined to lead to conflict and dissatisfaction because we have unreal expectations of one another.

The world’s plan is destined to lead to conflict and dissatisfaction because we have unreal expectations of one another.

It is impossible to know when I am, or my partner is giving their 50%. How do you estimate 50%. We begin focusing on our partner’s weaknesses which leads to disappointment and there will be less and less motivation to make the relationship work. Isolation is the end result.

We are born with a natural tendency to be selfish

If we fail to anticipate that both of us are selfish our oneness will be threatened. We are born with a natural tendency to be selfish.

Our culture today encourages this selfishness through the promotion of self-sufficiency and self-assertiveness. This robs our relationship of intimacy because in our selfishness we focus on our partner’s weaknesses and this leads to disappointment and disapproval. Receiving such negative messages makes us feel rejected and discouraged. Our selfish nature would even seek to justify our rejection of our partner.

The devastating result of our selfishness is ISOLATION.

Presented by

Isolde Swanepoel

Isolde Swanepoel

Isolde studied Speech Pathology and Audiology at the University of Pretoria and taught at the same department until she and Quintus joined the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ in 1980.

They are so aware of God’s goodness and grace as they celebrated their 50th Anniversary in 2019. They are the parents of three children and three children-in-love! And Grandparents to 9.

Since 1996 Quintus and Isolde have been involved with FamilyLife, the marriage and family strategy of Campus Crusade for Christ.

Isolde Swanepoel

Isolde Swanepoel

Isolde studied Speech Pathology and Audiology at the University of Pretoria and taught at the same department until she and Quintus joined the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ in 1980.

They are so aware of God’s goodness and grace as they celebrated their 50th Anniversary in 2019. They are the parents of three children and three children-in-love! And Grandparents to 9.

Since 1996 Quintus and Isolde have been involved with FamilyLife, the marriage and family strategy of Campus Crusade for Christ.

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