Life after divorce – Part 1

Session 13 | Episode 1

A lifestyle of unfulfilling love relationships

Good Day, My name is Gerda Snyman. Some time ago I shared my story with you on how I received Christ as my Saviour.

I talked about how I took control of my life and for many years was caught up in a lifestyle of unfulfilling love relationships. I was trying to find my worth in being with the “in” crowd and in being engaged or married…belonging to someone. Until I met Jesus Christ.

Today I will talk about the lessons I learnt as the first in a four part series of how I survived a divorce and grew closer to God.

Become friends, pay attention to the warning signs and red flags like being argumentative, controlling, selfish, pressing for sex etc.

Become friends, pay attention to the warning signs and red flags like being argumentative, controlling, selfish, pressing for sex etc.

After about 10 years of being single and celibate, living a very contented life, I met someone at church. He joined our small group and we started dating. He seemed to be a mature Christian and a true follower of Christ. Someone even said “he really seems to be sorted out”. But we didn’t get to know each other and we got married about four months after we met.

In hind sight, we were too hasty to get married. We were both in our forty’s and didn’t want to wait too long. But I really didn’t know the person I married. I wasn’t being realistic about the relationship. We were spiritualising everything – how we met, how God brought us together, how our lives connected, that we are meant for each other etc.

The lessons I have learnt for marriage, is to get to know each other really well. Become friends, pay attention to the warning signs and red flags like being argumentative, controlling, selfish, pressing for sex etc. Introduce the person to your friends and family and listen to their comments. Be careful to spiritualise things and to justify feelings and events from the Bible. Use your common sense. Although as Christians we need to trust God for a partner, we should be sober and clear headed in our choices. Being in love blinds us and it is difficult to see the facts.

Next time I will talk about how God lead me through the pain of divorce and starting the forgiveness process.

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Gerda Snyman

Gerda Snyman

Gerda Snyman has served as the Communications Manager at Campus Crusade for Christ South Africa since 2012 until September 2020. She was responsible for social media, the website, and managing the media department. She now stepped down from that position and joined LeaderImpact to serve and reach people in the workplace. From the time she joined staff in 2003 she was involved with the leadership ministry of CCC. This ministry reaches out to leaders in the workplace, government and diplomatic corps, helping them find their full potential and meaning in life.

Gerda Snyman

Gerda Snyman

Gerda Snyman has served as the Communications Manager at Campus Crusade for Christ South Africa since 2012 until September 2020. She was responsible for social media, the website, and managing the media department. She now stepped down from that position and joined LeaderImpact to serve and reach people in the workplace. From the time she joined staff in 2003 she was involved with the leadership ministry of CCC. This ministry reaches out to leaders in the workplace, government and diplomatic corps, helping them find their full potential and meaning in life.

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