How has your mother influenced your feelings and values concerning family and children? Your view of motherhood does not have to be negative because of past experiences.
God is able to make a new thing with you. If you had a positive experience, God can make it even better for you and your own children. Effective motherhood is possible.
Motherhood skills, attitudes and perspectives can be developed by seeking godly, older women as role models (Titus 2:3, 4); reading helpful books, as well as seeking godly professional counselling.
Much of children’s future is shaped by experiences in the home.