An extramarital affair is an escape from reality or a search for fulfilment outside the marriage.
We are seduced by our culture into believing that we deserve complete fulfilment and perfect happiness. Is this not what we see in the movies? The result of this is that we are led to having an improper perception of reality. We start comparing our expectations and fantasies with real life, and then rather question the reality and not our fantasies. This can lead to extramarital affairs.
Extramarital affairs can take on many different forms:
A love affair is certainly the most destructive of the different affairs, followed closely by a fantasy affair which includes pornography or an obsession with love stories.
We can have an affair with our career – we become so busy building a career that our partners and children must take the back seat. A materialism affair is closely related to the Career affair – we start chasing money instead of relationships.
When we spend too much time on hobbies or community projects, even good things like church meetings and Bible studies, but our partners and children are neglected we have an activities affair. There is even a family affair – that is when our extended family place undue pressure on us to spend time with them.