Psalm 54:4 “Behold, God is my ‘helper.’ The Lord is the sustainer of my soul.”
Psalm 46:1 “God is our refuge and strength, a very present ‘help’ in trouble.”
John 14:16 And I will ask God and He will give you another ‘helper’ (Christ referring to the Holy Spirit).
None of us can do anything without God’s help. In the same way, our husbands can’t do without our help. If we are not fulfilling our role as helper, then we are fighting as a competitor. Competitors do the opposite of filling gaps and supporting weaknesses. They exploit those weaknesses to gain the upper hand. Our husbands experience a lot of competition in the work place and if he feels he is coming home to more competition, he may be reluctant to come home.